I was talking about taking responsibility in life generally, but I couldn't leave out the the love life part.
What concerns feelings ..well, what I see is definitely no good. And I certainly can't blame only men. I've met a few men, who because of one or more amorous disappointment shut themselves down and only played with women. Even I made this mistake. I've hurt a few men myself, not knowing how they think. Us, women think in a certain way. Men differently. It's biology, you can't do nothing about it, just accept it. Nature has it's strange ways. But still...man and woman completes each other. I'll take a little decoy before returning to why man and woman are different and how this influences their relationships.

Another thing is some people let others control their lives, they are influenceable.
According to quite a few psychology books I've read, this is not even the person's fault. The parents are the guilty part. Usually these parents spoil the child. (S)He gets used to it and doesn't care at first of the success he could achieve by himself ( to become a man and stand on his feet) because mommy and daddy makes it all for him with the excuse that poor child is not grown up enough. But parents always try to protect the child.
Anyway, the problem is that if the child while growing up can't enjoy his own successes won't develop a healthy self-confidence. And this way he becomes influenceable for his whole life. (S)he always needs reassurance to feel safe, cause (s)he's used to it. I've met a looot of people of this kind. Men and women as well.
These guys/girls will never admit that because of their low self-confidence they think they aren't able to get the person they really desire. "cause I'm not good enough for him/her" That's crap.
You ARE good enough...if you truly want to be. If that person talked to you, wanted your company, then it's obvious (s)he likes you. It's up to You, you can become whoever you want to be if you truly believe in yourself. Always take the positive qualities and improve them.


For example: "men are usually more than tired, when a woman calls you all the time. When you don't have a little time for yourself, or have a beer with the guys, cause she wants everything together forever."--- Something like this. Not I've made this big mistake myself along time ago.

In this case I say this to women. It's their fault. Both men and women need a personal space, where we can be our true selves. Now if you (the woman) want to be day and night next to your sweetheart, when do you have the time to improve yourself? To make your own life? O.k. you two might even build a life together, but still... it's very important to learn to be yourself, learn your boundaries, find your true talents.

Women were raised in a way and think in a way to express emotions, feelings, to nurture each other. This is what we are trying to do with men.
When they have a problem, we want to help, it's in our nature. That's why we'll become mothers. We have to give the child nurture and love.

Now men...they are different. They take our concerns the wrong way. Their nature taught them to be tough! To never cry, cause it's shameful for a man, to be brave, be the head of the family.
When a man has a problem, he wants to resolve it in his own way. Accepting a woman's help would mean defeat or that he's not able to be man enough and do it himself.

This is the most important fact why men and women sometimes don't get along. When a man has a problem, he wants to be alone (usually in these times women tend to bug him the most). When a woman has a problem she wants to just talk about it and get a little love from his partner.

It's true. We learn till the day we die. But I'm really happy to know these facts. It really changes much. What I'm furious about, is that these things should be taught at least in schools. Because understanding who we are and how we work is the least we need to know in this crazy world.